Empathy Zone - Counselling that inspires

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About Me

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I work empathically, safely and ethically with traumatized clients who bring a number of different concerns (low self-worth, shame, anger, guilt, rage, depression, self-harm, etc,) into therapy stemming from unresolved emotional neglect/abuse, physical and/or sexual abuse.

I identify myself as an empathic, engaging and competent person with a natural talent for sensitively exploring traumatic experiences but more importantly I am a parent and grandparent.

I feel privileged that my work allows me to accompany people in their journey through vulnerability. Moreover, that privilege is complemented by my confidence in the power of empathy which enables me to engage safely with the complex dynamics underpinning denial processes. I love the empathic requirements of my work and I love the challenge of establishing, offering and maintaining unique empathic connections.

Empathy is life-affirming and its power can make my clients (and me) feel alive.

Talking about and working through painful feelings, such as shame, with an empathic therapist may bring discomfort, but it is worth remembering that ache is healing, for shame can not survive being spoken. It can not survive empathy. What's also extremely important to me is to practice within a disciplined format of accountability, functioning boundaries and ethical obligations, while championing freedom, creativity and maintaining a non-judgemental stance.

Point of fact: empathy is a crucial focus for client empowerment within the person-centred approach to counselling not least because “the therapist role is to be the ‘midwife’ of change, not the originator” (Rogers, 1978). Besides, “the development [of the therapist] is not about learning how to counsel but about becoming a person who can counsel” (Mearns & Thorne, 2008).

I can state with certainty I have become that person who can counsel.